Tara Brach talks about three conditions for healing from trauma. 1) Realize it’s not your fault (self-forgiveness) 2) Find some pathway to love or safety 3) Stay present to the feeling – no matter how painful it is – then you switch from the small, contracted presence to the full loving presence. This doesn’t mean you won’t ever have the feeling again, but that you when you do come into that feeling you will contact the full, open loving presence more and more easily. This is the blessing of presence. “When you trust you are the ocean, you’re no longer afraid of the waves.”
First, I have to forgive myself for the “not beautiful” ways I’ve coped with trauma in the past. Second I need to find the source of unconditional love, of loving presence. Third, I need to stay with the traumatic memory or feel it fully while staying in touch with the source of that open, loving presence all around me. This is what will allow me to heal.
I pass this on just as a way to help others heal. Also, try checking out Tara Brach’s website and books. She is really helpful. Namaste’.
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